Breaking the loop that holds you back.

🎥 Every Time Tom Cruise Dies in Edge of Tomorrow (4:54)

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In Edge of Tomorrow, Tom Cruise is stuck in a time loop—reliving the same day over and over until he finally figures out how to break free.

A lot of men live their own version of that movie.
It’s not alien warfare—it’s waking up in the same stale job, the same stuck relationship dynamics, the same inner battles you thought you’d already won.

The days blur, but the pattern stays.

Breaking the loop isn’t about pushing harder.
It’s about facing the thing you’ve been avoiding for years.

Research Note:​
Psychology calls this Repetition Compulsion—an unconscious drive to replay early experiences or pain in the hope of finally mastering them. Freud first named it, and later work (Levy, 2000) frames it as a post-traumatic response: we get trapped trying to re-enact the past instead of living freely. (Levy, 2000, PubMed Summary)

This suggests repeating cycles aren’t just “bad habits.” They’re signals that something unresolved is still steering the wheel. (Simply Psych)

👀 Short TED on Repetition Compulsion​
​What Are You Willing to Walk 500 Miles For? | Lauren Dollie Duke | TEDxOjai (14:32)

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3 Thoughts

1. Patterns have muscle memory​
   Your nervous system craves predictability—even when the “predictable” isn’t good for you. That’s why familiar dysfunction can feel safer than unknown change.
2. Avoidance is a loop’s best friend​
   Every conversation you dodge, every feeling you bury, keeps the cycle intact. Avoidance is like hitting “reset” to the same starting point.
3. The breakthrough often begins as a breakdown​
   Change usually comes when something cracks. It’s not weakness—it’s the first time the loop fails to reset, forcing you to try something new.

2 Quotes

1 Question

What’s one thing you keep “resetting” back to—and what would happen if you finally faced it head-on?

I’d love to hear from you. Do you have a question I can answer in under 5 minutes? If your question is selected, I’ll answer it (informally) and post it in the next newsletter.

Cheers,

— Dr. John

P.S. If you’re stuck living the same day on repeat, maybe it’s time for a reset.

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